The second mood-killer is often a debilitating shame concerning either one’s body or one’s sexual preferences. At this point, I’d like to emphasise that, in addition to debilitating shame, a healthy sense of shame also exists, which protects our private sphere, a space within ourselves where we can be at peace. A greater distinction here could also lead to increased sexual self-awareness and, subsequently, to a more joyful sense of sexuality.
So how can you fulfil the desire for lasting lust in a long-term relationship? This is when many couples ask themselves whether monogamy is still the best kind of partnership. And then, of course, there’s the question that comes back up time and time again:
What do I really want for myself?
What do I need…
to be happy in a partnership in the long run, in terms of security and freedom? Sex coaching overlaps with Couple’s Coaching in this sense.
There’s no longer any social consensus as to what unique and universal values are, what form the relationship should take, or what’s “right” or “allowed” in a partnership. It might not be romantic, but it’s pragmatic. The ethics within a partnership are every couple‘s individual agreement for themselves.